Supporting someone who is experiencing suicidal thoughts does not require a professional qualification or an ‘ology.’ While mental health professionals play a crucial role in providing specialized care, it is essential to recognize that not all suicidal thoughts stem from mental illness. Life can sometimes overwhelm us, leading to feelings of despair. In these moments, having the ability to listen, support, and guide someone to appropriate help can make all the difference.
Recently, I came across a comment criticizing the provision of mental health first aid training given by individuals without a mental health background or qualification. This perspective misses the point entirely. The purpose of such training is to equip learners with the skills to support colleagues in distress, whether due to mental illness, stress, or sheer overwhelm. The course focuses on understanding how to provide initial support, not on medical intervention or amateur psychiatry. It aims to help learners identify issues, listen effectively, offer support, and direct individuals to the appropriate resources.
These courses are invaluable in teaching us the right language to use when supporting someone and how to avoid common pitfalls. They also dispel myths surrounding mental illness and reduce the stigma often associated with it. Thus, it is clear that an ‘ology’ is not necessary for listening, supporting, and signposting someone in need. Professional help may be sought later if required, but in the initial stages, empathy, compassion, and the ability to listen without judgment are paramount.
After reading the uninformed comment, I attended a webinar with Debi Roberts from the OLLIE Foundation (One Life Lost Is Enough). Debi explained why some people are hesitant to help those with mental illness, overwhelm, or suicidal thoughts. She suggested that many people refrain from stepping up because they believe, “I’m not medically qualified, they need a professional, I can’t help.” Debi suggested that suicidal thoughts are like a wave that knock you off your feet leaving you disorientated. Dan Siegel, a Professor in Psychiatry suggests this is now the window of intolerance and not necessarily mental illness. If we can support them and keep them safe during that window, help and support can be sought once it has passed. Therefore, once we overcome this mythological hurdle, the next challenge is starting the conversation.
Initiating a conversation about someone’s distress is not easy, but it is crucial. Being honest and expressing concern about what you observe can be a good starting point. You don’t need an ‘ology’ to make a difference. What you need is the willingness to be present, to listen deeply, and to show compassion. By doing so, you can be an essential part of someone’s support system, guiding them toward the help they need.